Occasionally we get confused – people state one thing, yet act, or don’t act, quite differently. We wonder, how to distinguish the truth from the false commitments?
There’s a simple, but very powerful trick. I call it “a silent movie effect”.
Imagine you’re looking at your life events as if you are watching a silent movie, a Charlie Chaplin’s one for example. Remove the words from that film telling your life story and watch how characters act. Remember, it is only important what characters do, not what they say. If you are asked to add some title lines between the scenes, what would you pick intuitively?
Following this simple trick, you dissociate yourself, and you’re no longer emotionally bonded. Now, you can grasp the motives behind the behavior of the people involved in your plot (including your own motives). You can sense the shades of various commitments, intuitively recognizing empty promises from real ones. You’ll be surprised how many unclear motives become distinctly comprehensive in no time.
The silent movie effect has one more important aspect. From the observer’s point of view, you’ll be able to look at yourself. It takes courage to self-analyze your attitude, but afterwards you can eventually change the next chapter of your own life script.
Remember the quote from Chaplin’s final speech in The Great Dictator: Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.