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Trinity of life forces

The trinity of life forces is at the core of our human nature, and plays a key role to the quality of our life.

Let’s refer to these life forces as archetypal energies. The secret of mindful life is in the awareness of these three archetypal energies that constantly appear in our lives and determine our behavior, and it’s not only about us. Correspondingly, these energies influence other people’s choices and actions. In order to control and manage these forces, we shall first identify them.

According to Stephen Gilligan, PhD – one of the authorities in coaching who personally trained me, there are three main archetypal energies that intertwine and complement each other: Tenderness, fierceness, and playfulness.

The first archetypal energy is the life force of tenderness, that gentle aspect of our human nature that most people carry within, regardless of age, gender, or any background. It’s in our attitude of affection, respect, and delicate approach to any other person or other living creature; When we mean no harm, judgment, or offense – but quite the opposite: We want to encourage, help, contribute, brighten, and in general to contribute something of meaningful value.

Tenderness is important to be presented in the right amount, because too much tenderness leads to weakness, humility, and obedience, whilst the lack of tenderness develops into harshness, aggression, and cruelty.

The second archetypal energy is fierceness. Everyone has it and it plays an important role in our lives. This energy helps us to identify and protect ourselves as individuals. We need fierceness to set our boundaries, stand our ground, fight, and achieve. Again, the amount is key, because too much fierceness turns into brutality and violence, whereas the lack of it makes us weak, obedient, soft, and ultimately unreliable.

Personally, I believe that we should spare and accumulate this kind of energy on a daily basis, so we can use our supply of this energy when we are faced with tough moments in our life, and we are required to become true warriors in order to survive.

The third main archetypal energy is the force of playfulness and fun. 

Why is it crucial? Because this is the energy of creativity, of pleasure and joy, of curiosity, and of innovation. In a joyful state, everything seems easy and attainable, and that’s the state when brilliant ideas are born. But we should be aware: Too much playfulness makes a person superficial, irresponsible, and untrustworthy. Lack of playfulness, on the contrary, can make us rigid, overly critical, angry, and gloomy.

Having fun is always welcome during the generative coaching process. But please, don’t misunderstand me, one should not underestimate the challenges along the journey. We just have to be able to embrace any and all occasions to smile and laugh at the situation, including (and especially) to ourselves.